あなたはそのままのあなたで完璧!^^
こんばんは。今日は「あなたはそのままのあなたで完璧!」というお話です。よく聞く話が「私は欠点が多いから変わらないといけない」と言う人がたくさんいます。でも、変わる必要なんてありません。あなたはそのままのあなたで完璧です。変わる必要もありません。ネガティブな考えを持っているあなたも完璧です。怒りっぽく、嫉妬して、妬んだり、ひがんだり、嫌味を言ってしまったりしても完璧です。この世の中はネガティブな人もいれば、ポジティブな人もいます。すべてはバランスだと思うんです。ネガティブな人がずっとネガティブかというとそうではありません。ネガティブな人も騒ぎたいときには騒いでいます。そして、ポジティブな人も落ち込むときもあります。要はバランスの問題なんですね。ずっと騒いでいたら疲れますよね?ずっと落ち込んでいたら疲れますよね?だからバランスだと思うんですよ。だから、落ち込んでいる人を見ても「頑張れよ。明るくいこうぜ。」というよりも放っておいた方が良さそうです。落ち込んでいるときに変わらなきゃいけないと思っているのは自分自身です。周りから言われなくても分かっているはずです。人は自分の欠点を変えなければいけない。このままではいけないと思い始めると頭が混乱します。そうではなくて、この欠点たくさんの私はこのままで完璧だと思えた時に冷静に判断できるようになります。完璧を目指している完璧主義者は疲れますし、自分を許せません。でも、自分が完璧だと思っている不完璧主義者は次があると思っています。気が楽なんですね。相手を変えようとするとお互い不幸になります。相手は自分で気づいて変わるしかないんですね。どんなに周りが言っても変わらないのが、人間です。どんなに良い本を読んでも車の運転で毎回切れる人を見たことがあります。だから、ネガティブな人を見てポジティブな人が「もっと積極的に」とか言わない方が良いんだなあと今日気づきました。どんなに言っても変わらないのが人間です。自分で気づいて変わるしかないんですね。変わらないといけないと思うとそこにずっと集中して変わらない自分に腹が立ちます。罪悪感に襲われるのです。そして、消極的な人も積極的になるときもあるんです。だから、すべてはバランスだと思います。この世の中に必要ない人は一人もいません。ポジティブな人、ネガティブな人、怒りやすい人、やさしい人、すべてはバランスだと思います。みんな必要なんです。だから、周りで暗い人がいても「明るく行こうよ」なんて言葉は必要ないと思います。その人は落ち込むことに飽きたら必ず明るくなります。私は何人もそういう人を見ています。だから、あなたはあなたのままで完璧です!変わる必要なんてありません。ではまた。^^Good evening. It is the talk "you are you as it is and are perfect" today. There are many those who say "I have to change since I have many faults" one's often heard talk. But it is not in the necessity of changing. You are you as it is and are perfect. It is not necessary to change. You with a negative idea are also perfect. It is touchy, and it is perfect, even if it is jealous, and it is jealous, has an inferiority complex or it says sarcasm. There is a negative person, and a positive person is in this world. I think that all are balance. That is not right if it says whether a negative person is negative much. Noise is made when a negative person also wants to make noise. And a positive person may also be depressed. It is the problem of balance in short. it will get tired if noise is made -- if it has fallen, therefore it will get tired, I think that it is balance. therefore -- even if it sees a depressed man -- "-- it can do its best -- . which relaxes brightly. Merit that's right direction it let things go rather than ". When having fallen, it is itself who is regarded as it having to change. It should understand, even if it does not say from the surroundings. People have to change their fault. The way things stand, if you begin to think that it is bad, the head will get confused. that is not right -- this fault -- much I can judge calmly, when it seems to be perfect as [ this ]. The perfect principle person who aims at perfection is tired, and cannot allow himself. But the un-perfect principle person who thinks that he is perfect thinks that there is the next. Mind is easy. I will become mutually unhappy if it is going to change a partner. Does a partner notice by himself and change? However the surroundings may say, man does not change. Although a however good book is read, those who are competent by driving of a car each time have been seen. Therefore, he saw the negative person and has noticed [ "it is on a positive target more" or that a positive person had better not say, and ] today. Man does not change as a word however. Do you notice by yourself and change? If you think that it must change, you will get angry for you. [ who concentrates there all the time and does not change ] It is attacked by the guilty feeling. And a negative person may also become positive. Therefore, I think that all are balance. Unnecessary those one person is not in this world, either. A positive person, a negative person, those with whom it is easy to get angry, and all gentle persons think that they are balance. It is wholly required. Therefore, even if there is a dark person around, I think [ "it will go brightly" and ] that language is unnecessary. If the man gets bored with falling, he will surely become bright. I am looking at many persons of such a man. Therefore, you are perfect with you! It is not in the necessity of changing. then see you -- again . ^^