怒って育てるか?褒めて育てるか?
こんにちは。今日は「怒って育てるか?褒めて育てるか?」というお話です。会社の中でも、家の中でも怒って育てるか?褒めて育てるか?どちらが良いのか?考えてみました。まず、怒られて良い気持ちになる人はいないと思います。「褒めると相手が調子に乗るから駄目だ」と言う方がいます。でもそれは本当でしょうか?人は褒められるとやる気が出てきます。逆に怒られるとやる気をなくします。だから、褒めれば良いのだと思います。褒められて人は調子に乗って自分のいけるところまでいきます。そして、自分の実力に気がついて「調子に乗りすぎたなあ」と自分で反省をして微調整ができるのだと思います。だから、人を褒めてその気にさせて、そしてまた自分の実力を知って少し頭を引っ込めて、また調子に乗ってまた引っ込めて。この繰り返しだと思います。もし、上の人が下の人を怒り続けると下の人はやる気をなくして何もやろうとはしなくなると思います。だから、褒めることは本当に大切なことだと思います。世の中で言われている成功者に共通していたのが、母親の感化なんだそうです。その成功者の母親は子供が何をしようが「あなたはあなたのままで良い」と言い続けていたそうです。そういう子供は自分に自信を持ち、どんなことにも挑戦できるようになるのでしょうね。だから、親から褒められるか?怒られるか?で全然子供に対する影響が違ってくるんですね。ではまた。^^Hello. It is the talk "Does it raise angrily? Whether it praises and raises" today. Does it raise angrily also in a house in a company? Does it praise and raise? Which is good? It thought. First, those who become the feeling which may be scolded think that they are absent. Are referred to as "useless, since a partner will get carried away, if it praises" by some people. But is it true? If people are praised, a motivation will come out. Conversely, a motivation will be abolished if scolded. Therefore, I think that what is necessary is just to praise. It is praised and people go till the place he gets carried away and he arranges. And I think that he notices his ability, it reflects on "Having got carried away too much" by itself, and fine tuning is possible. Therefore, praise people, and make it the mind, and get to know your ability again, for a while, retract, and get carried away and retract the head again. I think that it is this repetition. If the older man continues scolding a younger man, a younger man will think that he will not suppose that a motivation will be abolished and nothing will be done. Therefore, I think it really important to praise. It is said that a mother's influence was common in the success said in the world. It is [ how depending on which a child does what ] said saying the success's mother you are "good" with you that it was continuing. Such a child has confidence in himself. Can he challenge anythings now? Therefore, is it praised by parents? Is he scolded? Do you come out and is completely the influence to a child different? then -- again . ^^天才たちの共通項 子育てしない子育て論 小林正観