乱歩を通じて考える子供のしつけについて
うちはまだ子供がいないので、普段はあまり子供のしつけなどとは無縁。しかし、乱歩を通じて、子供のしつけについて考えるような出来事がありました。昨日は乱歩が新天地の下見中はとてもいい子だったので、いつもの公園に連れて行ってあげました。いつものように跳ね回ってると、小さな女の子を連れた親子連れと出会った。子供が乱歩を見てはしゃいでたのと親子から声をかけられたので、なでなでさせてあげた。別れ際、親にお礼を言われ、バイバイ。その後、乱歩の餌やトイレ用のウッドリターを買いにいつものホームセンター兼ペットショップへ。そこはペット同伴可能で、フードコートのテラスもペット同伴可。お腹が空いていたので、乱歩をhiroroに預けて、食べ物を買いに行きました。戻ってくると、乱歩達は幼稚園ぐらいの子供達3人に囲まれている。その子供達、乱歩を触りにきたらしいが、耳は触る、乱歩のキャリーケースの蓋をバタンバタン開け閉めするなどなど。hiroroがいくら注意をしても全然無視!カチン!ときたのと乱歩の顔を怯えていたので、子供達にちょっときつい口調で注意した私。その子達の親達はというと、注意するどころか数席先のテーブルで話しに花を咲かせてる。私が怖かったのか?!しばらくすると子供達は自分の親達に呼ばれて、お礼も言わずに去って行った。そして、立ち去り際にすごい目つきで母親達ににらまれた。私はhiroroに注意をしました。親が子供の事を見ないで、ほったらかしにしているような子供と乱歩は絶対に関わらせないこと。今回はたまたま乱歩が怯えただけだったけれど、うちの乱歩だってうさぎだもの。驚けば自己防衛で人を傷つけることもある。ましてや親が注意しないような子供と遊ばせていて、乱歩が子供を傷つけるようなことがあれば、そんな親に限って、一方的に乱歩が悪者になりかねない。だから、相手から一声かけられた時しか絶対に接してはいけないと注意しました。私は両親がしつけに関してはすごく厳しかったせいか?!けっこう子供のいないわりには子供のしつけにうるさい方かもしれない。だけど、やっぱり子供だからこそ、親や他人を問わずにしつけとして教えなければいけないことがあるような気がします。私の子供の頃は自分の親のみならず、悪いことや知らないことはよく他人にも注意されたような気がします。今はすっかりそれがなくなったというか、一つ間違えたら、逆に親にほっておいてくれ!なんて怒られたりするようになってしまった。私なんて過去に何度も他人なのに、危ないし、子供の為を思い、注意したら逆に親に怒鳴られたことなんてけっこうあるけれど...やりにくいけれど、ここは大人になって、他人でも、やっぱり子供のためには親に逆ギレされても注意しなくちゃいけないなと思いました。 僕、人は大好きなんだけど...とんだ災難にあって、もうびっくり!I love humans. But I was so frightened by this incident!We don't have children of our own, so we don't usually think about children's diciplines. But it made me think about children's diciplines through being with Rampo.Yesterday we took him to the park as usual because he was a good bunny throughout our travels in the new city that we are moving soon.He was hopping around as usual and we met a little girl with her parents.Since she was so happy to see the rabbit and her parents asked us if they can see him, I let her pet him. They thanked us and we said our good-byes.Then we went to the home center and petshop that we usually go to. We went there to buy Rampo's foods and rabbit wood litters. One can take one's pet to the home center and petshop. One can also take one's pet to the terrace part of the food court, too. Since we were a bit hungry, we went to the terrace part of the petshop. I left Rampo with hiroro, so I can go buy some food for ourselves. When I came back, they were surrounded by 3 little children who were about the ages of kindergarden. The 3 children came to pet Rampo but they were pulling Rampo's ears and playing with the lid of Rampo's carrying case and etc. Although hiroro warned them not to do these things, they ignored him and continued on. That made me upset and Rampo also looked very frightened,too. So I warned them with a bit of a strong voice. What were their mothers doing?? Their mothers were few seats away, talking and talking, not looking after their children at all. Maybe they got a bit scared?! After a while, they were called by their mothers and left without saying any thanks. When they were leaving, they passed right next to us, and when they passed by their mothers gave us a harsh look in their eyes. I warned hiroro. This time, only Rampo got frightened. But he is a rabbit, you know. If he gets too frightened, there are possibility that he might bite or harm the children to protect himself. If Rampo hurt a child, who isn't looked after by his parents, by accident, then there might be a possibility that Rampo will be the only bad role in this kind of situation. That's why never let anyone come close to Rampo unless they come up to us and asks us, if one can be allowed to pet him.My parents were very strict with diciplines. Although I don't have any children of my own yet, I'm rather strict concerning children's diciplines.But because they are children and they aren't diciplined yet, we adults, both their parents and adults around them must teach them about diciplines.When I was a little girl, I think I was diciplined by both my parents and adults among me. Nowadays, these customs are gone and sometimes one gets warned by the child's parents to be left alone because it's none of one's business. Quite a few times in the past, I was yelled at by parents because I had diciplined their children not to do certain things because it's dangerous for the children's sakes.I think one must act like an adult and dicipline the child for his/her sakes although one's just one of an adult around them.